Candle Lights...

We cannot change mindsets by lighting candles. We have to help people when they need help. Don't just stand or pass by thinking if it would disturb our mundane life.

This goes out to all those morons who stood by and passed by the couple lying naked and in pain on the streets of "Delhi" - Dilli hai dilwalon ki. I wonder what were people thinking watching that couple... What were they waiting for?? Were they so sure that if they helped in any way they would later get tortured by the cops?

I've always hated Delhi for many reasons, now i have another one.

I don't believe in everything the media writes. Most of it is bullshit and made up. Just like the name given to that girl. Like she didn't have one till that day... She has a name, she and her family did not want to disclose it, she was a girl living in India and that could have happened to anyone. Why cant the media just let it be that way. Was she a hurricane or storm that you need to name her? Or is it that there are so many rape cases in delhi that every victim has to be named so that we can differentiate and remember them or such horrific incidents through these special names given by the Media?

I feel that everyone of us must have the local police station numbers and address in our contacts list. Not that it would solve the problem but its always better than dialing 100 and getting redirected to the cop station meant for your jurisdiction during crisis. I m sure all of us have our favorite pizza outlets and restaurants numbers stored in our contacts. Make sure you add one more to that list. 

Step out with a confidence that I wont let anyone insult or misbehave with me or any other girl around me. 

The beginning...

I have been thinking of writing/expressing something about the terrible Delhi gang rape and other similar incidents.

  

Having said that, I am disappointed with the way some are reacting to these ever increasing incidences.

I start by drawing the Kind attention of our Brothers, Friends, BFs , Fathers, Husbands and every man in general, Please Stop saying things like – “Forget about it”  or “Don’t pay attention”,  “Why are you getting involved ???” “ It’s not happening with you right, then why bother? “... and a million other statements, which show that you care and love us but your indifference to women in general.

In reality you are not helping... and if you can’t help... then don’t try to stop us.

I know you love us and you are genuinely worried about our safety. But with all due respect, it is because of you and your lack of courage to stand up against these lunatics or letting us stand against them, that leads them to believe that they can get away with what they do.

The only way to put an end to misbehavior or extremes (of it) like rapes is by an individual effort by every girl. Revolt in your way and stand against every human who tries to suppress you or looks at you as an object of pleasure. Do not ignore even if it is eve teasing which is common even in a city like Mumbai.

I say this because today they might not be teasing YOU, but someone else and you can choose to forget about it. But remember, you are encouraging these pests.

Tomorrow, encouraged by your silence, they will go one step ahead and assault another girl, and it could be you.

DO NOT ignore, give it back to those morons.

Do not be selfish. Just take a moment and think, if this will help you or cause more nuisance in the future, because a small effort by each one of us will benefit one girl in the future.

Change can be brought about gradually not overnight. It is stupid to expect people to behave more sensibly with women overnight. If we want it to happen we should make it happen... Just think of all the women who will benefit from this.

We might have had the torturing experience but they have to be safe. Please do not ignore any kind of misbehavior.

It’s clear that one cannot expect the system or law to protect you from any kind of injustice. You have to fight this for yourself and others, not by begging for a cruel punishment after the crime is committed. Power should never be given to one person or killing people is not going to make a difference. Thousands of people have been shot and hanged for different crimes but does that mean they haven’t been repeated??

People ask for a cruel punishment...but how can one define that?? I agree with a friend on this one... 2 minutes of strangling and then death is not even close to what any woman faces during that horrible time. A death penalty will surely help... but it’s after the punishment people get complacent. That is not the solution.  Every woman should be an example...

Women have got to make the world safer, since men have made it so darned unsafe for women.